Missionary Done Right
According to many sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. There’s nothing fancy about it, but many women said they love the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner’s weight on them, the ability to kiss, talk, nibble, plus a lot of clit stimulation. But, in order for missionary position to be most effective, make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle. Why this is an important position to master, by going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there’s more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that’s how most women achieve orgasm.
Cowgirl
Just as the name implies, “ride ‘em, cowgirl!”. In this position, the woman straddles you from above and very much is in control of the action and pace of sex. It’s other benefit is that you as the man, are in a position to allow your hands to explore her body, stimulate her clit and breasts and pull her forward onto you for a passionate kiss. Why Cowgirl is an important one to include in your lovemaking is that it inherently flips the “power balance” over to your lover and gives her the dominant role. Gals like that from time to time!
The Crisscross
This is another great position for clitoral stimulation. Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side. She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X. Since your bodies aren’t pressed up against each other, either the man or the woman can reach down to rub her clitoris. This position also lends itself to using vibrating sex toys on her. The crisscross is a very useful and valuable position as it allows you to give her total clitoral stimulation and great orgasms.
Ankles Up
When you’re on top of somebody or flat, you can’t always achieve full penetration, which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact. Put her ankles up over your shoulders! It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot. The other important aspect of this is that, as a variation on “Missionary” it keeps eye contact at the maximum. Lots of gals like that too!
Cross-Legged
You don’t need to be flexible enough to sit completely cross-legged like a pretzel, you just need to be able to get into a seated position with your erection facing up. From here, she’ll sit in your lap, facing you and wrapping her legs around your hips/waist. You’ll achieve maximum penetration and she can be fully in control either riding you or rocking her hips while she holds onto your shoulders for support. Cross-legged is also an important position as it evens the playing field as far as control of the action. You are BOTH in total control.
So, where do you learn all of these new techniques, you may ask? For GOD’s sake, don’t rely on the porn tubes as examples of what will turn your gal on. In most cases, she is not going to appreciate your newly found “anal pile driving while you gag her, slap her and call her a bitch”. Most relationships need to sort of work up to that, if at all. Your best bet is to visit some “” websites and watch movies directed by women that focus on mutual satisfying sex between couples. These provide a lot of ideas, but set in the context of passionate sex with chemistry between the performers. Even better: Watch these movies with your gal and see what turns her on!
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